I am a planner. I've mentioned when I was a School Age Child Care Director I had three "Rainy Day Schecules" just in case we happened to have weather that would close schools and therefore open my program for the entire day. It's not that I can't handle change.... it's just that I try to anticipate and plan for it.
In school, obviously, we live by schedules. It's not that we don't like the occasional convocation, it's just that we'd like as much advance notice of them as possible.
Then comes summer. Some live for it and its lack of schedules but not me.
Especially not now.
In the past it was so easy. The boys and I would plan "Field Trips." I'd have a craft time. Kid pools were big enough. An ice cream cone was a fun treat.
Now the two years that separate them is more like an ocean. One is quiet and likes to read and could pass for a vampire if I let him keep the hours he wants to. He can spend hours turning cardboard and tape into a Star Fighter and enjoys creating. The other jumps in with both feet -- a whirling dervish that leaves destruction in his path because cleaning up after is boring and "takes too much time". The only other choice is the screen stupor he welcomes at the drop of a hat. And if not a screen he needs a cruise director because entertaining himself is not something he wants to do.
Very little in common anymore. Individual personalities now in Neon Lights. Country house. Friends in many and varied activities that occupy THEIR time so they are unavailable.
So, here I am -- a planner-- without a plan.
And it isn't as though I don't want to do anything with them. But how do you fill a day - let alone nearly 70 - without a plan and when those you want to plan for are 12 and 14? And boys who are not interested in crafts. Or writing. Or being outside because it's "boring" without any one else.
How do you occupy teenage boys without spending money and when they can't agree on anything? (Last night it took 2 hours to decide we would go to Lazer Tag and then Half Price Books)
Any one have a plan on how to plan?